Some of you might remember the story about Sarah and me talking Swedish to her. I really wanted her to speak Swedish and therefore I spoke Swedish to her when she was born.
When she was around 2 ½ (or was it younger, can't remember), she was evaluated and considered "speech delayed". They told me (in a way that made me feel very bad) that it was my fault for talking Swedish to her. I had read that it is normal with speech delays for bilingual children, but this lady was really pushy and made me feel like the only thing was to stop the Swedish if I wanted Sarah to learn to talk right. I was bullied, quite frankly.
So I did. Stupid, stupid stupid!!! I don't know what I was thinking, but they really had me thinking it was my fault she was having speech problems... They did not contact me for a looong time, but when they did I found out that the lady who had evaluated Sarah had been fired, she was never a qualified evaluator, in fact, she was a college student in training!!!
But now it was a bit too late, Sarah was NOT interested in learning Swedish anymore, so it felt a bit like I missed the boat on making her bilingual. This is one of my biggest regrets in life! I try my best to teach her and she is very interested in Sweden, but I think the only thing that would help at this point would be "immersion therapy": go to Sweden for an extended stay and really immerse her in the language. But that is not possible right now.
Then back in spring they asked if they could evaluate Sarah again, but this time it was through her school, and I made sure it was by a qualified speech therapist... They said she would be a candidate for speech therapy and that they would get back to me with a plan in a few days.
They never contacted me. Until this past Friday, 5 months after the evaluation! We have a meeting with them this afternoon, but both Ken and I feel she no longer need any speech therapy (if she ever needed any to start...). Over summer her speech have clearly improved, and the only thing I really hear her having trouble with are her Rs. I don't think anyone can expect a 6 year old to pronounce Rs perfectly!
So we will go to the meeting and see what they say. But a 5 month old evaluation is not much to use as a backbone. A lot have happened in her development in 5 months. She reads and writes really good, she is a whiz at math... I don't think we have anything to worry about.
The thing that gets me really upset is the paper work that came with the notice of the conference. If she would receive speech therapy she would be considered special ed and disabled. Disabled (handikappad)??? Who knows if this label then would stick with her throughout school and cause problems, not a chance I would want to take. Special ed (specialundervisning) is also considered a pretty serious thing here, which would definitely put her in a category I don't think she deserves to be in.
I am NOT ready to label my daughter HANDICAPPED just because she has a hard time pronouncing her Rs.. What do you guys think about this mess???